Sundays with Daddy-1

I will always remember those Sunday mornings when dad and I used to go for long walks , talking about everything from his teenage to mine , from talks about our family business to my studies , from the kinda songs he used to listen , to the kinds i do , in fact contrasting his life to mine , And every Sunday we set out , I used to learn more about my dad , and more about life too , it's meanness to the unexpected surprises . It was like a preparation to face this evil world , to be able to handle problems and stand up when i land square on my face , and to celebrate and be content with everything that God has showered me with .

One such Sunday he told me about this 2+2=4 rule .
It is quite simple , when we were young and tender in primary / junior classes , teachers used to teach us 2+2=4 and if we went wrong , she would first try to make us understand , if we still could not learn then she would give it another try , if we still didn't ,she would cane us real hard , if we still did not learn she would even punish us with 25 sit-ups or talk to our parents or whatever but she would stop only when we learnt that 2+2=4.
Just like that in our lives each time we face a problem , not only do we have to overcome the problem but learn from those mistakes , if we don't , life will come up with a little more harsh way of teaching us the same rule / quality / whatever that we lack ... but just like the teacher it would never give up on us until and unless we learn from our mistake !

Simple right ? So next time you have some valleys in your life make sure to be strong enough to overcome it and yeah , learn from it too ! :) !

Come what may....people will always talk!

I had to take a decision ! It was getting late !! I was done with my entrance test but had scored awful  ! I wanted to study another year in an attempt to crack the test ...but  I wasn't comfortable ! I mean what would people think ? I was always a good student and then repeating a year would be like failing!! That's when my granny told me this story and to be honest that was the last time when I thought "what would people think ? "

Journey begins with a grandpa , his grandson and their donkey . They were travelling to a distant village and  had to pass by many other villages before reaching their final destination .And they started , grandpa , grandson sitting on their donkey. They reach the first village , and as soon as they enter they find a few people telling "Look at them ! How insensitive ?! They are healthy enough to walk and are yet torturing the poor , weak donkey. " They immediately get down and start walking alongside the donkey , continuing their journey. They reach the next village and again they hear people talking about them  "Hahah..look at those fools ! They have a donkey and are yet walking by it's side. How dumb!" Listening to that , they decide that only one of them will sit at donkey's back . That way they could use the donkey for travelling and donkey too won't be burdened .The grandson  lets his grandpa to sit on the donkey . They further travel and reach the next village . They once again hear people commenting on them "Look at how cruel the grandpa is ! He is making that poor boy walk in the scorching heat of the sun and is nicely enjoying the ride all by himself." Feeling as if he had committed the biggest crime , grandpa got down in a split second and let grandson sit on the donkey  and they continue . Next stop. "Look what an excruciator that little boy is ! Being young he can walk miles but he is making his old grandfather do that . kalyug.kalyug . "

                   So it's pretty clear , eh ? people will always talk , no matter what you do .... they will always find some or the other flaw to gossip !! So do we really care about them ? so much so that we sometimes sacrifice our dreams ,  sacrifice being what we are , sacrifice taking decisions that would change our life for the better ?

Or sometimes just brood over some bullshit rumours that we hear about ourselves ? Are these people and their talks this important ? Morons - that is what I love to call them , draw conclusions without prior knowledge and spread it like wild fire. So next time you have something up in your mind , before considering what people would think , why not first consider if you like it or if your virtues / conscience allows you to do so ..... because if the "latter ones in place and you own their wife and kids" (social network) ;)                                 

                              And as they say:
                                                   "Great minds discuss ideas ,
                                                  average minds discuss events,
                                                   small minds discuss people!"
                             
 Ohh and p.s : I did repeat my year - with a deaf ear :)
  p.s.s : I am deeply indebted  to you  for helping me complete this post ! Thankss a lot Riyaz Sundrani (the excruciator) :P
                       

Unpredictable...!!

I read this really touching story from one of the books longg back , which holds a real important truth we normally neglect or don't pay heed to....before getting to that point i would like to share a story :) :

It was about a guy in high school , he loved his school , friends and most importantly his PARENTS . One night he was just thanking god for making his life so near to perfect . He could see his dad from the open door , sitting and working on his laptop for some important presentation he had the next day , and all of a sudden this boy felt sooo much of love and respect for his dad that he wanted to go there , hug him and tell him i love you dad ! and then he  hushed the feelings away just as soon, as they had come thinking c'mon a guy isn't supposed to tell such stuff to another guy...it's not a guy-thing ! The next day he went to his school , had fun like he normally has , teased his friends like he normally does , and left from the school as he normally does , little did he know that it wasn't going to be a normal day ! On coming back home he found way too many people in the backyard , he was confused ... "was it mom's birthday today ? nahh...may be their anniversary ? whats so special about today ?" he went straight inside to find out and had to face the hardest moment of his life .... his dad was lying there , right in front of him , lifeless , with bruises , he couldn't come to terms with the reality . His dad had met with an accident on his way back home , leaving him spot dead .Tears filled his eyes and emptiness his heart . He hugged his dad , said him i love you , but it was too late . He felt bad for not letting his dad know how much he loved him and respected him last night , even though he would always fight with him for petty issues like pocket money or for permission for a Saturday pyjama party in order to escape spending time with the family.He thought it was boring and uncool to sit and spend time with parents , not anymore , now he regretted everything he had ever said , every time he bunked to avoid spending time with his dad . But nothing could be changed . It was too late .
                                             I hope you guys must have by now guessed what i was trying to convey . Just like this boy , most of us take our families for granted , we love them but we never express , we think we are gonna live forever ! We think THEY are gonna live forever . But life has it's own plans . So why not love them , express our feelings to them when we are all together instead of regretting later ! And not only that but then living life , doing everything we love NOW ! Not procrastinating things for next summer or next Christmas ... who know if you would still breath ? And most importantly you live only once , so live it king size , make most of every second , live in the now ,  Because we never know if tomorrow comes.There's nothing as mysterious and as unpredictable as life is and like they say ;
                                      "Take chances,tell the truth ,
                                  spend the money on the things you love,
                                  get to know somebody random,
                                  say i love you to someone in life,
                                           feel the true love,
                                  tell the idiot how he/she hurts you,
                                  abuse someone who deserves it,
                                  sit alone,watch the rain and cry,
                                  laugh till your stomach pains,
                                  dance even if you are bad at it,
                                  pose stupidly for photos,
                                  give someone a hug when they need it and
                                  make sure to get one when you do,
                                  be naughty like a child
                                           live it !
                                          love it!
                              because -- "You only live once ,
                                              but if you do it right , 
                                                once is enough ;) !  " - Mae west