Wednesday, 9 March 2016

Do You Have A Robin?

If you're familiar with the show, "How I Met Your Mother," (If you're not, don't worry, keep reading, I won't spoil it for you) then you might be aware of Ted's love for Robin. This dialogue by Ted in the season9: episode 17 goes to explain it in the best possible way,

"Actually, there is a word for that. It's love, I'm in love with her, okay? If you're looking for the word that means caring about someone beyond all rationality and wanting them to have everything they want no matter how much it destroys you, it's love."
There's more to the dialogue, which I'll quote later in the post.

Realize it or not, we all have a Robin.
Someone we'd go to any lengths for.
Someone for who you'd kill yourself if that is what it takes to see them smile.
Someone who may not reciprocate this insane, unconditional love.

Which means, the relationship can turn in either of these two ways.
The first one, which if you ask the sceptical me, is a little fictional and the remaining of Ted's dialogue covers it very eloquently,
" ...And when you love someone you just, you...don't stop, ever. Even when people roll their eyes and call you crazy. Even then. Especially then. You just- you don't give up.If I could know, take the whole world's advice and-and move on and find someone else, that wouldn't be love. That would be some other disposable thing that is not worth fighting for. But I ... that is not what this is."

The second, which I think is what happens in real life, is that there comes a point when you've crossed your threshold of giving and giving, you reach the saturation point.
When you've had enough.
When you've had enough of pleasing someone who doesn't reciprocate it with the same intensity.
When this someone never really comes through for you even though you always, ALWAYS come through for them. No matter what.
And then you start hating your Robin
And you start hating the Ted in you- for being so deeply attached and affected by a person,
for letting all the doubts and insecurity eat you up.

So you stop.
You stop because you cannot do this anymore.
You stop because you're tired of letting yourself be the second priority,
You stop because you're hurt, your heart is demolished and your Robin can't even see it.
You stop because you're too tired to fight with the emotional turmoil that has been choking and drowning you.
And it's okay.
It's okay to give someone up if you're giving yourself a chance.
It's okay to be your own Robin.
So, go be your own Robin.

            For those who get the pun, PC: Pinterest


  1. "go be your own Robin"

    Brilliant, Shonazee!
    Believe it or not, this made me tear up a little :P :D

    1. Thank you, Aparna. Your comment just made my day <3
      And yes, go be your own Robin!

  2. Neat post! Maybe I'm a bit of a cynic, but is not Robin's unconditional love the intensity of an infatuation? Giving all the time without receiving will never end well, IMO. Best wishes.

    1. Precisely, giving all the time without receiving never ends well. Maybe I'm a bit of cynic too. Thank you so much for visiting, your comments keep me going. Thank you, Mr.Jones :)



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